It doesn’t matter how smart you are. It doesn’t matter how talented you are. Nor does it matter what skills you have, where you were born or which family you come from. One of the most important things in life is the people that you choose to surround yourself with.
You’d probably describe the majority of your friends as kind, trustworthy and supportive people who make you feel happy. But if you’re anything like the rest of us, you’ll also have a few that you also call friend, but they actually make you feel something completely different.
You can’t necessarily spell out why, but somehow you always come away from spending time in their company feeling anxious, uncomfortable, paranoid or as if you’ve given a lot of yourself and they’ve given nothing in return.
These people literally suck the joy right out of you.
Your inner circle should consist of people who share the same or similar goals to you. Better yet you should surround yourself with people who have already achieved what you are trying to do. These people will inspire you, and likewise you will be an inspiration to them. Win win right?
Time stealers, emotional vampires and control freaks will never inspire you. They will live up to their names. They will steal your time. They will drain you emotionally. They will control you to the nth degree. They will leave you with nothing to give yourself, or anyone else for that matter.
None of us can afford to be naïve about relationships. Some people are positive and mood elevating. Others can suck optimism and serenity right out of you. Vampires do more than drain your physical energy. The super-malignant ones can go a long way to making you believe that you’re an unworthy, unlovable wretch who doesn’t deserve better. The subtler species inflict damage by making smaller digs which can make you feel bad about yourself— “You’ve put on a few pounds” or “You’re being over sensitive” Regardless of which camp they sit in they’ve managed to push the button on your shaky self-worth. Not a win win right?
It’s always good to evaluate the people you spend time with. According to Jim Rohn, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Worth some thought that little bit of maths…