Notes to self…

A funny *thing* happened the other day. It wasn’t funny as in funny ha-ha.  Other stuff was. Side splittingly, laugh (for that you can read witch-like cackle) out loud and make you cry tears of laughter kind of funny.

However this *thing* started a thought process which felt rather important. So much so that I wanted to write about it so that I could refer to it again should I need a timely reminder / a bit of a hoofing / something to read that would make me stop and think for a second…

We can learn from our past, but we can’t live in it. At times we are all guilty of clutching the past so tightly to our chest that our arms can’t embrace what’s in front of us.  Sometimes we avoid experiencing the here and now because we have developed a belief, based on our previous experiences, that this is not where we should / could / would be.

But not everything from our past belongs in the present.  To hold onto circumstances that have moved on is to stay stuck in a place and time that no longer exists.  Realistically, moving on doesn’t mean that we have forgotten the good stuff from our past – it simply means that we have found a positive way of surviving without it in the present.

Also – and yes I know that this one sounds a bit dumb – but the past never changes. We can spend hours, days, weeks, months, or even years over-analysing stuff. Trying to put the pieces together and justifying what could’ve / should’ve / would’ve happened.  But ask yourself this: is it really worth expending all of our emotional energy on something we can’t actually influence?

(The right answer is NO btw.)

Maybe an alternative view could be that for all of us our past has given us the strength and wisdom we have – it’s made us who we are today. So maybe we should celebrate it rather than let it have a negative impact on us?

To quote my boss: Onwards and upwards.  After all you shouldn’t let your past steal your present…

2 thoughts on “Notes to self…

  1. I think one rule of thumb for me is that I find it far easier to feel the past has shaped me into who I am and be grateful for that, if things are going well for me now. Otherwise I am quickly drawn to being bitter. Bitterness over the past is such a time-waster though, far better, as you say, to celebrate it 🙂

    • Bitterness doesnt get you anywhere. To me there feels no point to rail against what has shaped you into the person that you are – the good, the bad and the ugly. Celebrate it. If it hadnt done its job you wouldnt be you. Fact. 🙂

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