It is futile to fight inevitability. Life is change; if we stop changing, we stop growing. Be pragmatic for a second: life is never going to go exactly the way that you want it to. Something is always waiting to crawl out of nowhere and nibble on your left buttock when you least expect it. The more that you attempt to make life go exactly your way, the more it will do its level best to do the opposite. Fact.
I’m not saying you should quit making decisions and go whither the wind blows. We all have to make decisions, every single day. Much as we might hate to. But when we come up against something we have no control over, that we really really really don’t like, what should we do? We need to make a decision based on the change and our level of control. If it’s major and you have zero control, then be mindful that the more that you fight the worse it will become.
The only thing that you will gain from heaving your head repeatedly against a stone wall is a headache. The chance of you breaking down the wall is absolutely zero. Fact.
Continual resistance to a change that you cannot control will have a negative effect; on your health, your emotions and the people around you. Mark my words Bucks it will become the new obsession du jour. None of these reactions is going to alter what’s at the crux of the matter.
It is better to recognise what you can change and what you cannot. If something has manifested in your life that you cannot change, then you must change instead. Be flexible. Learn to go with the flow, instead of always trying to swim upstream.
Is it something that you can learn to live with? How much does it actually impact your life? Can you adapt?
Don’t make things worse by being inflexible and angry.
We can only change ourselves. Other people are perfectly capable of making their own choice about whether or not they want to change themselves. And when. And how. Much as it may pain you, you cannot force someone else to change. Rather than experiencing that pain, wouldn’t it be better to let it go? Your pain is caused by your wish that things would be different. If they aren’t going to be, then you need to adapt.
Your life is as easy or as difficult as you decide to make it. And sometimes it is better to just go with the flow…